Warning Signs Of An Abusive Relationship
Warning signs of an abusive relationship are usually blatant and causes physical, emotional and mental distress. The longer you stay in an abusive partnership, the worse it gets over time. The following signs are important to be aware of if you are not sure if you are in an abusive relationship.
- Taking the blame for everything. One of the warning signs of an abusive relationship is that you never do anything good enough. When things don't go right in your partner's own life, most likely she will drag you down and expect you to take full blame of everything.
- Jealously. Jealously is one of the biggest warnings signs of an abusive relationship. She may express she loves you and that’s the reason she is possessive. However, the abuser might be trying to control you. If she is eliminating all your contacts with family and friends, increasing the amount of time you spend with her, and convinces you that she is the only person you need in your life, you may be in an abusive relationship.
- Control. Obvious signs of an abusive relationship are taking control over your life. Limiting time with other people outside the relationship, constantly checking on your emails and calling excessively are signs of control. If you feel your girl acts like a prison guard and does not let you have your personal space, you could be with someone who may be abusive.
- Physical fights. An abusive relationship happens when your partner hits you out of anger, either in public or private and often feels remorse and says, "I really didn’t mean to do it." You believe the lies and they continue the cycle repeatedly as long you allow it.
- Manipulative. An abuser knows how manipulate a situation to give you the idea they are innocent. They often pressure you to do things you are against and will say, "If you love me, you do this or that", or make you feel extreme guilt for any minor wrongdoing. You will always feel punished for trivial matters and within time, start walking on eggshells around the abusive person.
- Arguments. In an abusive relationship, the abuser often picks arguments and fight over the smallest things to gain control. Sometimes the arguments can get nasty and instead of resolving an issue, they become distant and refuse to talk or see you for days.
- Anger. An abuser is prone to anger and uses different methods to control--mental abuse, emotional abuse, or physical abuse. They cannot handle their emotions maturely and handle it with bouts of anger, often leaving you feeling like the bad person in the relationship.