What To Do If She Has No Desire For Sex

If the sizzle is starting to fizzle in your romantic life, there's a good chance that you'll find yourself wondering what to do if she has no desire for sex. While passion shouldn't be the defining point of a relationship, there's no denying its importance. But what happens when passion takes a turn from a daily occurrence to a once in a blue moon event? If you're in a monogamous relationship, finding someone else to scratch that itch is out of the question and you might just need to brush up on those smooth moves.

1. Talk to her about what's happening. If your girlfriend or wife suddenly loses interest in getting down and dirty, chances are there's a good reason. Approach her at a time when you aren't expecting sex and when both of you are in a good mood. Tell her that you love her and ask her about her lack of desire for sex. This isn't the time to pick a fight by yelling or throwing around accusations but to show your genuine concern for her.

2. Be willing to help however you can. If there are health or personal issues at play, offer your help, even if it is only your support. There may be nothing that you can do if she has no desire for sex, but how you help her through any rough patches will definitely work out in your favor when her problems are worked out and sex is back on the menu.

3. Give her the time she needs, within reason. No one expects you to wait the rest of your life before having sex with your partner. But bullying and pressuring her to have sex when if she isn't into it won't accomplish anything but bringing your relationship to a quick end. Let her know that you are willing to give her time if she is willing to do her part and attempt to work out her issues.

4. Bring more intimacy into your relationship. Realize that if she isn't into having sex, worrying about what to do isn't going to do a thing but cause you more stress. Instead, pump up the level of intimacy between the two of you by sharing romantic evenings at home, giving one another sensual massages and reacquainting yourselves with the art of kissing and touch.

5. Don't initiate sex or sexual contact. Sexual contact isn't the same as intimate contact. When giving those sensual massages, stay away from the genitals and when kissing don't go straight for the breasts. When she's ready and her desire for sex returns, she'll let you know.