What To Do If Wife Has No Sexual Desire

By: Irwin M. Fletcher

Break Studios Contributing Writer

When it comes to difficulties in the bedroom it isn't always clear what to do if wife has no sexual desire. It can be difficult and frustrating for both of you. Many times, finding out your wife has no sexual desire can help you assess the situation better and find a solution.

  1. Communicate with her about why your wife has no sexual desire. This conversation can be mutually beneficial. She may just need to tell you about something simple like physical condition that is making sex more difficult for her or maybe she has changed medications and this has effected the amount of sexual desire that she has.
  2. Make sure you aren't the problem. While it is tough to admit, there may be something that you can change that will bring back her sexual desire. It can be difficult to sit down and speak frankly about sex, but the benefits far outweigh the uncomfortable feeling. Take everything that is said in stride.
  3. Begin to come up with a solution. Take what you learned from the conversation and see what you can do to make things change. Is your relationship lacking in romance? Does she need to know that you love her more. Remember, she is the best resource that you have for figuring out why your wife has no sexual desire.
  4. Change something in the bedroom. You like it one way and she likes it another. Make a concession and spend a little more time on her “like list” until things get back to normal and become more mutually beneficial.
  5. Take some time to add a little extra intimacy. Do things that draw the two of you together that don't necessarily have to do with sex. However, sometimes, things quickly  move in that direction. Give her a massage, just take the time to hold her and show affection. Give her verbal encouragement and even let her know how special she is to you.
  6. Be patient. If the problem isn't you or something that you are doing, just be there for her. Know that this isn't going to last forever and it may just take a little time for your wife to regain her sexual desire.

Even if your wife has no sexual desire, if you take the time to meet some of her other needs, you may find that things turn around quickly.

Posted on: Nov. 10, 2010