What To Do If You're Not Enjoying Sex

If you seem to have lost your spark (or can’t get it lit in the first place), a guide on what to do if you’re not enjoying sex could be of serious use. For couples that have been together for awhile, sex can increasingly feel like a dull chore. If you’re new to the entire thing, on the other hand, the idea of sex itself can bring with it an inescapable feeling of dread. No matter what the reason, sex is supposed to be enjoyable. For your own well being in the bedroom (or elsewhere, if so desired), check out the following tips on enjoying sex.

1. For stagnated couples, try something (anything) new. Time constraints and other stresses often lead to a not so enjoyable sex life for people in a long-term relationship. Over time, people naturally tend to develop and stick to routines. Sex, believe it or not, is no exception. If regular old sex is not cutting it, make time to mix it up. The change doesn’t have to be drastic. Something as simple as a new sex position or switch in location from where you regularly do it can make all the difference.
2. Get used to sex. Younger couples and people who don’t have much experience with sex often find it hard to make it enjoyable. A lot of guys will obviously say otherwise, but the fact is that there are few situations where you’re more exposed and vulnerable with another person than when you’re having sex. Try clearing the air by just putting your apprehension towards sex out there. Your partner likely feels the same way, allowing you two to get close and take it more slowly. When the pressure’s off, sex naturally becomes easier to enjoy.
3. Forget about sexual performance. Mainstream pop culture and porn hammers the idea that “being good in bed” is of huge importance to every sex life. But every couple’s sex life is different. The key to enjoying sex with your partner, as cheesy as it sounds, is communication. If you find out what your partner likes it will both cut down on the guesswork and boost your confidence, which by itself leads to better sex.
4. Shake off the sexual mishaps. Every once in a while, something weird is going to happen during sex. It could be as small as falling off the bed, or as big as accidentally revealing your semi-freaky fetish. Either way, laughing it off is usually the best route to take. Sex itself is fun by itself; it’s us that ultimately make it otherwise. So go with the flow and make an effort to keep things light to enjoy sex.