Looking at porn isn’t something people typically discuss openly. It’s private, still a bit taboo and, in some circles, highly frowned upon. One of those circles happens to be relationships. In recent news, a woman caught her husband looking at nude photos on the internet and—gasp—she was pissed.

To get revenge, the woman didn’t simply give her man the silent treatment, or punish him by refusing sex. No. She took it one step further and got her revenge by taking nude photos of herself and posting them on the same site she found her husband on. Her interesting method has the internet divided over whether she’s a legend or an asshole.

After posting a photo of her breasts to the Reddit forum her husband frequented, the woman noted on Mumsnet, a website and forum “by parents for parents,” that her husband was furious, saying he went so “completely crazy,” she was forced to take down the nude. Unfortunately, the photo had been upvoted numerous times. Rather than being embarrassed, however, the woman noted that it only “upped [her] self esteem [to] no end.”

Naturally, users on the forum disagreed. Was it brilliant, or was it an immature move to go tit for tat? Let’s weigh in.

Revenge is a heavy word with a lot of consequences. Doing it only stirs up more anger in the person giving it, and it hurts the person getting it. If she felt betrayed by her husband’s decision to look at porn without her knowledge, is it really right for her to betray him back?

Here’s the thing: Relationships are tricky, each with their own individual boundaries set forth by the couple—boundaries that aren’t supposed to be broken. When they’re broken, people get hurt. But revenge is never the answer. It’s childish. It’s useless. All the woman in this story got out of it was some exposure for her breasts and an ego-boost. But let’s rewind to the bigger picture: porn.

It’s one giant cliché for a woman to get mad at a man for looking at porn. Everyone looks at porn. Well, maybe not everyone, but sex is being talked about now more than ever, and porn is becoming less offensive to a good portion of the population. People like sex, people want sex, people want to see sex.

Women need to admit that they masturbate and, yes, watch porn, too… if they do. If this woman doesn’t, it still doesn’t make her a saint, given the fact that she threw up a nudie online.

Hey, be liberated girl, but not at someone else’s expense.

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