Sports are an expression of competition like no other; they can ignite an unquenchable fire deep within us—then dash our dreams to the ground, just like that. But whether you win or lose, your post-game etiquette matters. Here are a few tips to help you demonstrate the exemplary sportsmanship your game deserves.

If you’re that delighted or upset about your team winning or losing that you feel violence and mayhem is the only way to express it, maybe just go out and have a drink with your teammates. Maybe also consider counseling.

DO Be a Graceful Winner or Loser
If you won: Good for you, you did it! Stay humble and you will be admired. You can always celebrate fully at the bar later. If you lost: That sucks, but it’s not the end of your story. Stay hungry and you will get another chance…to win with class.

DON’T Showboat
Honestly, who in their right mind thinks it’s charming to publicly celebrate one’s own deeds with nary a sense of team spirit? Once (you think) you’re at the top, there’s nowhere to go but down.

DO Make Nice With the Referee
You and the ref should be best buds, because if the human race has told us anything, it’s that people make a lot of their decisions toward others based on how they feel about them. You know you’re going to see this guy again, and you do not want him to remember you as the guy who made his life miserable over a few—or many—blown calls.

DON’T Incite a Riot
The Detroit World Series Riot of 1984, The Red Sox World Series Riot of 2004 and the Lakers Celebration Riot of 2010 are some great reminders of how one should not whip people into a frenzy and destroy public property while practically daring riot control squads to pepper-blast them in the tear ducts… all in the name of sports. If you’re that delighted or upset about your team winning or losing that you feel violence and mayhem is the only way to express it, maybe just go out and have a drink with your teammates. Maybe also consider counseling.

If you’re going to get arrested celebrating, at least be wearing the #24 Kobe jersey.

DO Remember To Have a Good Time
What’s the point of playing, if not to have some fun? Team sports aren’t about ego-fueling; they’re about trying your damnedest to achieve a win while enjoying the hell out of the full experience. Remember your love of the game. And afterward, if you won, congratulate your teammates. If you lost, appreciate the challenge and steel yourself for next time.