Friends and family might tell you to spend some time working on yourself, getting your head straight. And that’s all well and good, except for the fact that they’re not entirely right.
While many people will tell you that rebounding will interfere with the healing process, a gamut of research paints a different picture. When done right, research concludes that “finding a new partner has benefits over remaining single following a breakup” and “compared with those who remained single, people who had begun dating again were generally better off.”
Check it out… But first, a quick disclaimer: The research only focused on rebound relationships, not rebound one-night stands. Sorry, fellas.
1. You can get back out there whenever you want.
It doesn’t matter. One study found the amount of time people waited between ending one relationship and beginning another had no impact on the success of the new relationship.
Each person differs in how long it takes before they feel ready to be in a healthy, mutually beneficial relationship again. If you’re already there, don’t restrict yourself from dating just because it’s what you’re supposed to do for the new relationship to have a chance. What matters is the effort you’ll put in and your compatibility together, not the number of days since you last hooked up with your ex.
2. Moving quickly doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll carry baggage.
Entering into a new relationship helps the process of getting over the old one. It’s not because you just push your ex out of your mind, refusing to process the breakup and ignoring your feelings. Actually, people who stay single have shown more unresolved feelings about their past relationships.
Research shows rebound relationships help guide people through the recovery process and help them let go over their partners. Another study found that rebounds give people more resolution over their exes. Of course, you need to approach the rebound in a healthy way to get these benefits. Trying to replace your ex with a clone or rebounding to make your ex jealous misses the mark.
3. You still need a psychological health break, but rebounds can help.
Breakups do a number on us psychologically. For example, suppressing your emotions and acting like you’re fine ends up making things worse in the long run.
Rebounding can minimize the hits to your well-being and self-esteem, however, so the breakup has far “fewer global effects on their psychological health.” It’s important, of course, not to use another person as a band-aid to temporarily fix your issues. But a rebound relationship for the right reasons can lighten the impact of the losing someone.
4. Rebounds help your trust issues.
Not finding someone new can make you more cynical about people. Those who stay single after a breakup were less able to trust others and less able to rely on others compared to those who rebounded. Getting back out there lets you meet great people and see that your ex isn’t the end all, be all. A new healthy relationship shows you some people can (and should) be trusted.