We’re born alone, we die alone, we’re intrinsically programmed to function alone. And while most of us would probably choose not to go through life alone, we’re equipped to survive solo if need be.
Every now and again, it’s neither unhealthy nor unnatural to crave a reminder of our own resilience, individuality and innate human ability to endure, well, all things human.
When she travels solo and learns more about herself—her likes and dislikes, strengths and fears—there’s evermore to intrigue you about her, too.
It builds trust. If you’re worried your partner will cheat with her hotel’s cabana boy, you shouldn’t be together. If you’re worried you might cheat while she’s away, you shouldn’t be together. Couples who travel for business or pleasure without each other, and do so loyally, will only gain respect for and confidence in one another.
It spices up conversations. Traveling solo means coming home with epic stories no one else has heard, which means they’re stories she’ll be eager to tell you. And tales of scuba diving in Belize or camping in the Sahara can be far more riveting than complaining about the same coworkers or the Starbucks guy who spells her name wrong every day.
It’ll keep things interesting. Part of the reason we’re so enticed by other people in the “honeymoon phase” is their alluring mystery and, when we feel like we know everything there is to know, that fascination inevitably fades. But when she travels solo and learns more about herself—her likes and dislikes, strengths and fears—there’s evermore to intrigue you about her, too.
Taking separate time off is better than none. Studies show that working adults who take advantage of their paid time off are happier in their careers, which sure as hell carries over into their lives at home. And since you very well may have conflicting schedules, it’s not a bad idea to go separately instead of skipping vacation altogether.
You’ll learn to support each other in new ways. When she really needs a spa weekend and some space to be all pensive and introspective and whatnot, you can show her your support by holding down the fort while she’s gone. And when she comes home to you with a clearer mind and a renewed sense of self, it can only improve your time together.
You’ll both get a reality check. When she returns to a clean place and a happy and healthy man, she’ll realize that, yes, life ticked on without her and you could theoretically live without her. Which means she just might be inclined do everything in her power to ensure you never feel the need.