As you probably know, generating attraction is one of the most crucial parts of having success with women. It’s how you wedge your foot in the door and create a solid first impression, which makes all the difference between filling your phone with lovely ladies’ numbers and… not. What you may not know is, skillful flirting is as much about what you don’t do as what you do. With that in mind, here are five game-killers to avoid when chatting up the girls who’ve caught your eye.
1. Lacking Confidence
In the entire history of mankind, this facial expression has never led to good things.
Your confidence is the number one thing you’ve got going for you. That zitty hipster guy in the ugly vintage sweater with the hot girl? He wipes his butt with confidence. That’s why she’s buying him drinks. If you’re lacking in confidence, you can start by pretending to be confident, and eventually you will be. It’s called fake it ’till you make it. We know this sounds like some garbage out of The Secret, but we swear that it works. Practice taking the initiative with women and never ever, ever say anything about how you don’t think you’re doing it right. (Otherwise you’ll sound like a high school kid, and not in a cute Fast Times at Ridgemont High way either.) Just plow ahead, and even if she disagrees with some of your moves, she’ll respect you, which she needs to do in order to be attracted to you.
We’re not saying you can’t exaggerate, fudge the truth or even lay out a “creative” version of reality. After all, women pretty much expect us to do that. Outright bullcrap, though, is another matter entirely. While it might (might) get a girl back to your place for the night, you’d better never want to see her again. Actually, you’d better hope you never even run into her again, because there’s no way you’re going to remember that whole original drunken spiel the second time around. She probably will, though. You know how chicks are. If she calls you out as a liar, congrats, you’ve just created a cock block for life.