3. Telling Sketchy Stories
Is it just us, or do the pantyhose kinda ruin it?
The time you stole a statue from the front of a church might be a really cool story, honestly. We’re sure your friends will get a huge kick out of it. However, the women you are seeking to win over at the bar probably won’t. Save the stories about tearing it up on your friend’s bachelor party or the time you cheated on your last girlfriend for the locker room. Women like men of integrity and good character. The ones who don’t aren’t ones you want to be dating in the first place.
4. Talking About Your Ex
We’re not sure you need our advice, Derek, but don’t mention Minka to the new girls.
Never, ever, under any circumstances, discuss your ex. Never bring her up, and if the girl asks, give the least amount of information possible. You might as well talk about how your new Valtrex prescription is doing a bang-up job on your herpes sores. She does not want to know that your ex exists, period. If, for whatever reason, you find yourself incapable of restraining yourself, say positive, unemotional things about her. But seriously, avoid this subject like Justin Bieber avoids puberty.
5. Hanging On Her
Probably not gonna call him back. Mostly because she doesn’t appear to have hands.
They call it “game” for a reason: it’s supposed to be fun. When you’re flirting with a girl, you’re being playful, not shopping for furniture together. Flirt a bit and when the conversation reaches a natural conclusion, bounce and find something else to do. Don’t worry, pal, she knows that you’re there, and she’ll make her way back to you if she wants more. This works especially well, because if she finds you later on, you know she’s DTF (down to flirt). And if she’s playing hard to get, don’t sweat it! Have a drink or two and find her again, but definitely don’t spend the entire night gripping her arm like you’re afraid she’s going to run off with someone else. It’s pretty much the best way to ensure that she will.
Jordan Harbinger is a Wall Street lawyer turned Social Dynamics expert and coach. He is the owner and co-founder of The Art of Charm, a dating and relationships coaching company. If you dig this and want to learn more from Jordan and The Art of Charm team, then visit http://www.theartofcharm.com. You can also interact with Jordan on Facebook.
