Good news, guys, more women than ever are into rough sex—and they’re becoming more verbal about it, too.
OkCupid recently conducted a study with over 400,000 participants and found that 62 percent of women say they like it rough. Rough sex and bondage have been on the rise in recent years—OkCupid members are 23 percent more likely to admit that they’re into BDSM than they were five years ago. In fact, researchers noticed a spike in interest on Valentine’s Day, the same day 50 Shades Darker was released in theaters. Surprising? Hardly.
When a woman is scratched, spanked or has her hair pulled, for example, her blood pressure and heart rate increase in response to the pain. During sex, that pain can be interpreted as sexual excitement. Plus, there are areas of the brain where pain responses and sexual arousal overlap. So it makes sense that as rough sex becomes more mainstream in movies, more women are open to trying it and many realize that they kinda like it.
“I think it has more to do with the delightful sting and the delightful warmth and the delightful vibrations that it sends through the whole region,” says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., coauthor of Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance & Submission.
The study also found that a majority of women enjoy hearing derogatory terms, being tied up and having their partners take control, while men prefer being bitten, doing the tying and taking control. It works out that way.
Just be sure you talk to your partner before you whip out, well, a whip. Feeling safe is important during sex. If you’re both feeling adventurous and you get the green light, go wild. Plus, kinky sex may actually be good for your health. It’s a win-win.